A few years ago, I had a life-changing experience that COMPLETELY changed the course of my life. The life-changing event was an encounter or “calling” I felt that came from God.

For the first time in my life, I pursued a profession that I always wanted but never attempted because of reasons that would detour you from continuing to read this because of how long it would take me to list them…..Instead, I’ll tell you the MAIN REASON why I ventured into the coaching world.


After countless failed attempts, my wife finally persuaded me to complete my “Life Plan.” While writing my own EULOGY (very morbid experience) it hit me. My purpose was to serve as Christ did, and I knew my gift was to work with athletes. God had taken me through so many professions to mold me into the man I am today. I’m still a very flawed man, who screws up in some capacity EACH and EVERYDAY. However, I have found my purpose. Serving my creator. My purpose was my legacy, and it means more than anything.

“Let the light that shines in you be brighter than the light that shines on you.”
— Dabo Swinney

I had finally found my light because God was now leading my steps. Coaching is a stage for God to work through me and make an impact in athletes’ lives.


Today’s athletes compared to my era (1990s), are vastly different. The work ethic we had back in our day, was much more prevalent than today. Coaches now have to overcome athletes who are the product of entitlement and instant gratification. We’ve lost the passion of the process.

I’m digressing a little but it’s important to understand the mindset of current athletes to really embrace the privilege it is to guide them. Now more than ever, coaches should treat their profession as serious as holding a public office position. If we don’t cherish and respect the coaching position, we are contributing to the chronic enabling of a rebellious culture in our society.

Before you assume, I’m some crazy conservative, who has no idea of struggle, discrimination, etc., slow your roll. I’m very aware of the inequalities that STILL exist in our culture, however, I am referring to the experiences I had while teaching the last year. The amount of disrespect towards staff, cussing in class, lack of engagement, etc., blew my mind!!!

Our kids don’t respect authority because we don’t make them earn it first. It’s not their job to figure it out. We must demand them to follow and hold them to consequences if they don’t.

It’s an honor to help kids increase their confidence by giving positive feedback when it’s earned. However, it’s equally important to correct or discipline, when it’s needed. If do not discipline, we are not seeking the best interests of that athlete. Are we? No. We instead are allowing a behavior or attitude that does not benefit them after their athletic careers.

At the end of the day, I am so grateful to God for EVERY child, of any age, I’m able to coach. I truly consider them my children and treat each one as my own. I’m not always going to be the “favorite” or “popular” coach, but I will always be the coach who CARES.